Maureen Dowd’s recent article called Men Just want Mommy rattled quite a few cages.
In a stunning act of misogyny, a researcher at University of Michigan has made me excessively relieved that I decided to forego U of M in favor of Wayne State, which was known for its outstanding Psych. Department.
My comments at Ms.Musings were as follows:
“What a ridiculous conclusion to draw from that study. It amazes me when women will take such a misogynist position to gain personal favor in their careers. Aside from the fact that we are so obviously conditioned as men to marry down, and as women to take care of others, the study showed not a difference linked to gender, but to entitlement.
Any human would prefer to be served and pampered than to be challenged. We all like having our own way in things. Men have traditionally achieved more because they traditionally had a support system that career women have not. It’s easier to excel in your career if you don’t have to worry about preparing dinner, clothes to be worn the next day, children to tend, etc. Things only even out when a woman has enough money to hire the services men have traditionally expected to be provided freely and eagerly by a wife. Career women need wives, too. Who doesn’t?
We need to re-envision relationships to include support for the primary earner, or make it easier for women who aren’t wealthy to work and maintain their homes.”
I want to expand on those comments here, since we’ve been on the subject of Matriarchy. Note that the psychologist mentions a man’s interest in assuring that he not be responsible for rearing another man’s offspring. This is the very foundation of Patriarchy. Father Right, and patrilineal inheritance require absolute control of women’s sexuality.
We need look no further than the Old Testament to see this at work. A woman who is raped must either marry her rapist, or be stoned to death with him. (Deuteronomy 22:20-28) Had Mary not convinced Joseph of her divine encounter, she would never have lived to give birth to Jesus. “Honor Killings” and stonings are still performed in primarily Muslim areas, as is genital mutilation of girls to prevent their enjoyment of sex. It’s all about “Who’s your daddy” and it is vile, soul-killing hatred of women’s sexuality.
The Catholics who parade at abortion clinics would rather see a woman die in childbirth than end a pregnancy. They choose what may or may not be life to that which most certainly IS life – that of a living, sentient woman. There’s no logic in that position, only hatred and paranoia. “God forbid” a woman have sex without intending to procreate – though she is uniquely evolved to do so. “God forbid” she conceal sex outside of marriage. “God forbid” she control her own body, without subjugating herself and her womb to her husband and her church.
I submit there is another reason that more intelligent women are less likely to marry. The more intelligent, the more independent a woman is, the less likely she is to subordinate her needs and goals to that of a man. Our culture has failed to produce a generation of men prepared to be partners to women who do not consider themselves vessels and servants.
The articles above cite two new movies which have male leads falling for women who speak other languages. In Love Actually, Colin Firth portrays a writer who finds that his significant other is cheating on him, so he goes of to the Continent to finish a book he is working on. He falls in love with a young girl who keeps his house. They cannot communicate beyond the most basic expression of needs.
So what is it that he loves? What is it that she loves? We see a lingering shot of her in her …